At Boxthislap we love hearing real opinions and experiences from the sim racing community. This is one of those stories shared anonymously by one of our readers that reminded us why the human side of motorsport matters just as much as the racing itself.
Some races stay with you because of a victory, an impossible comeback, or a wheel-to-wheel battle that leaves your hands sweating. But this one stayed with me for something much simpler: an act of human decency. I was in an iRacing race, one of those where you try to stay focused lap after lap, watching every braking point and refusing to give away even a tenth of a second. Everything was going more or less normally until the incident happened. A touch, a hit, a damaged car, and that all-too-familiar feeling of thinking: “Well, that’s it, race over.”
It wasn’t the first time it had happened to me. In sim racing you learn to live with these things. Sometimes someone takes you off the track, sometimes you’re the one who makes the mistake, and many times all that’s left afterward is silence… or some rather less friendly comments. But this time was different.
The Message I Wasn’t Expecting
After the race, I received a message from the person who had hit me. It didn’t come with excuses. It didn’t come with that tone of “yeah, but you also…” It came with a clear, simple, and direct apology. And along with that apology, they sent me iRacing credits. I won’t pretend those credits fixed the car, because I wish you could buy a quick repair mid-race. They didn’t change the result either. The race was already lost. The damage was already done.
But honestly, the gesture was worth more than any position recovered.
What moved me wasn’t the amount. It was knowing that someone, after making a mistake, didn’t just close the simulator and carry on as if nothing had happened. They took the time to find me, write to me, and say, in their own way: “I know I ruined your race and I’m sorry.”
In a community where many times the most you get after being hit is an insult, a complaint, or simply nothing, running into something like this is genuinely surprising. It made me think about something we sometimes forget far too easily: behind every car there is a person. A person who also practised. Who also wanted to have fun. Who may have spent the whole week looking forward to running that combination. Who maybe only had that one free hour to sit behind the wheel.
When I shared the experience, many people reacted with humour. Some said that when they get hit, instead of receiving credits, they’re told they owe someone a car. Others commented that they’d already feel lucky if someone just wrote a simple “sorry.” And I understand them. Because that’s what happens most of the time. Someone hits you, they leave, they say nothing, and you’re left with a wrecked car and the frustration to deal with.
But there were also stories from people who do the same thing: drivers who send private apologies, who give back positions when they know they gained an unfair advantage, who have even sent a few credits when they feel they made too big a blunder. That was the most beautiful part of all. Discovering that this gesture wasn’t just an isolated anecdote, but a small sign of something that exists, even if it isn’t always visible.
Making Mistakes Is Part of Racing
We all make mistakes. We’ve all braked too late at some point. We’ve all misjudged a rejoining manoeuvre. We’ve all attempted a move that seemed brilliant in our heads and turned out to be a disaster on track. The problem isn’t making mistakes. The problem is pretending nothing happened.
For me, this experience left a very clear lesson: a sincere apology doesn’t erase the incident, but it does change how you remember it. I don’t remember that race as “the race where someone ruined my day.” I remember it as the race where someone had the decency to take responsibility.
I don’t think every incident needs to end with credits being exchanged. It’s not about paying for every mistake, or turning apologies into some kind of emotional toll booth. But I do believe we could normalise something much simpler: acknowledging when the fault was ours.
A message is enough.
- A “sorry, I braked too late.”
- A “it was my fault, I’m sorry.”
- A “I gave the position back because I didn’t earn it cleanly.”
These are small things, but on track they carry a lot of weight. In the end, this story left me with a strange feeling. On one hand, yes, I lost the race. On the other, I finished with a smile. Because amid so many scrapes, frustrations, and crossed messages, someone decided to do the right thing. And that, within a competitive community like iRacing’s, is deeply appreciated.
Maybe you don’t come across someone like that every day. Maybe it’s not the norm. But when it happens, it reminds you why it’s worth getting back on track. Because iRacing isn’t just about being fast. It’s also about competing with respect.
And that day, even though my car ended up damaged, my faith in the community came out considerably repaired.
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See you on the track!
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